This sharp sword "hurts feelings, demeans others, destroys relationships, and harms self esteem." -Elder Marvin J. Ashton.
"So what is the antidote for this bashing that hurts feelings, demeans others, destroys relationships, and harms self-esteem? Bashing should be replaced with charity," Elder Ashton says.
Elder Ashton continues, "Perhaps the greatest charity comes when we are kind to each other, when we don’t judge or categorize someone else, when we simply give each other the benefit of the doubt or remain quiet. Charity is accepting someone’s differences, weaknesses, and shortcomings; having patience with someone who has let us down; or resisting the impulse to become offended when someone doesn’t handle something the way we might have hoped. Charity is refusing to take advantage of another’s weakness and being willing to forgive someone who has hurt us. Charity is expecting the best of each other."
Elder Ashton advises, "If we could look into each other’s hearts and understand the unique challenges each of us faces, I think we would treat each other much more gently, with more love, patience, tolerance, and care."
Please read the whole talk, it really brings things into perspective. Click Here: The Tongue Can Be A Sharp Sword, Elder Marvin J. Ashton, Ensign 1992 May
Once the Spirit moves you to become better after reading Elder Ashton's talk, read this one by Elder Joseph B. Worthlin. Click Here: The Virtue of Kindness, Elder Joseph B. Worthlin, Liahona 2005 May.
May we all strive to be as kind as our Savior, and try not to hurt the ones we love.